Monthly Archives: August 2009

And The End Came Today

Rest In Peace, Roland Burton Smith. Great-grandfather, grandfather, father, brother, husband and much more than that.

He died this afternoon at 5:55 p.m. Mountain Daylight Time at the Caribou Memorial Living Center.

When we got there earlier today his breathing was quite labored. They checked his vitals around 1 pm and found that his heart rate was very high and quite erratic. Further, blood was pooling in his extremities, which pretty much explained his situation: his heart was not pumping the blood very efficiently. Consequently, his heart was beating as hard as it could trying to overcome the poor heart function. Meanwhile, his breathing was very labored as he was trying to get more oxygen into his body. The nurse said that the end was quite near and would probably happen within the day.

A couple of hours later he slipped away. Nina was at his bedside when he died.

Mother is doing very well. Right now for her it is a big relief. We’ll take turns staying at the house through the end of the week so that mother isn’t alone.

The funeral is tentatively planned for Saturday, August 8th at 11:00 am at the Hooper LDS Church in Soda Springs. There will be a viewing on Friday night and another one on Saturday before the funeral. Interment will be in the Cleveland Cemetery.

Dad … The End Is Near

Dad In the Geriatric Chair
Dad In the Geriatric Chair

Yesterday (Friday, July 31, 2009) when mother arrived at the nursing home, the staff asked to talk with her about dad’s condition. He wasn’t eating or taking fluids as they couldn’t wake him up to eat or drink anything. He has a living will on file stating that they were not to take any extraordinary or heroic efforts on his behalf. It was decision time, they told her. If she wished, they would put him on an IV to keep him hydrated and put in a feeding tube so he could take nourishment. The alternative was for them to honor the living will and he would continue as is, that is not eating and not drinking anything.

They further told her that putting him on the tubes and bottles would only extend his life for an unknown period of time. He would not get any better. He would only continue a slow deterioration.

Today lots of family descended on Soda Springs as it is mother’s 85th birthday. My brother, his wife, along with his daughter Mindy and her family were there. Both my sisters came as well and Terry’s husband Allan came along. Nina and I, along with our daughter Heather and her son Michael, and our son Daryl and his wife Laura were there. That provided a unique opportunity to have a family council and help mother with this decision.

Everyone there affirmed that dad would not want to continue in this state. Further, mother said that if it were her in his situation, she also would not want to continue. There is a better, happier place to be.

So, no extraordinary or heroic measure will be taken. The staff said he could die within the next week to ten days. They will keep him comfortable and make certain he’s feeling no pain.

The end is very near.